In Kim Bearden's book, Crash Course, she refers to that "flexibility" as improvisation. That's an interesting word choice, since we truly do improvise for hours every day. That's really what we are doing when we have conversations, and if we are having conversations and not "preaching" to our students, we are probably on the right track.
In many of life's situations, there are detours and roadblocks that keep us from reaching our desired destination. When we encounter them, we have two choices: we can continue driving forward, or we can give up. But first, we have to accept that things don't always go as planned; we have to be willing to recalculate our route.
We are sometimes hit with obstacle after obstacle, and we allow these to defeat us or we give up. Obstacles are not there to make us quit; rather, they are there to direct us to take another route - one that we would not have chosen otherwise. We miss the meaning, though, if we don't notice the signs along the way. Every single life has twists and turns, setbacks and detours. The roadblocks are a part of our unique journey - we must accept that the mystery ahead is what allows us to live with the thrill of anticipation. We all have different life maps, and each continues to unfold with all its beauty, pain, wonder, and drama. After all, our problems do not define us; how we respond to them does.